Note of Sympathy

For most of us, it can take time to find the right words to express sympathy. Here are some examples of what you might say when wanting to send a card that will comfort.

1.) Start Simple, Direct

  • “I am so sorry for your loss”
  • “I was saddened to hear about the passing of your sister. My thoughts and prayers are with you.”
  • “Remembering your daughter and sending you my deepest sympathy.”
  • “Thinking of you and your family and honoring the light of a life and legacy that will remain forever.”
  • “Celebrating a remarkable life and wishing you comfort.”

2.) Offer Kinds Words about the Deceased

  • “There was never anyone quite like Cassandra. She was one of a kind in every way that mattered. I am honored to have known her.”
  • “Spending time with your dad was like holding court with a man of great heart and intellect. His stories and advice have shaped the way I see the world.”
  • “Celebrating the life of a generous woman and mourning her passing. She was and forever will be a beautiful light in the world.”
  • “Your wife wore lots of hats – best friend, wife, mother, gardener, artist, master baker, confidant, community activist. But for me she was simply that one-of-a-kind person who was loved and admired by all her met her. I count myself luck to known her.”

3.) Express Your Sadness

  • “I am deeply saddened by the passing of your husband.”
  • “I share your deep sorrow over the loss of your daughter.”
  • “We are so sad for you and what your family is enduring. We are missing Holly along side you.”
  • “I can not imagine what the last months have been like for you and the children. I grieve deeply right along side you for the loss of a beautiful life. John was a tremendous father and exceptional friend. My thoughts and heart will be with you in the weeks and months to come.”

4.) Offer A Special Memory

  • “I’ll always have a special place for Jane. Her smile and personality lit up the room.”
  • “No one can cook sweet potato pie like your grandmother. I will never forget the time she graciously offered to make one for me – just because.”
  • “This may sound funny, but the thing I always enjoyed about brother was his irreverent sense of humor. He could crack me up on even my worst days.”
  • “My memories of your mother will always be fond ones. Her uncanny sense of style and generous heart made me look up to her.”

5.) Offer Your Support

  • “I know I can’t take your pain away, but I can offer to be a supportive ear. I am here.”
  • “This can be a very demanding time, I will check in with you next week about bringing you a meal.”
  • “Right now I’d like to ease your heart and mind by making sure you don’t have to worry about small details. Jeff and I will make sure your yard work is done for the next month. Please accept that as one way we can make this time a little easier.”
  • “You have lot on your mind and your heart is heavy. Please allow me to…. (fill in the blank with a specific thing you can do)”

5.) Signing Off

  • “Wishing you peace”
  • “Thinking of you”
  • “Sending you love at this sad time”
  • “With you in sympathy”
  • “In caring sympathy”
  • “My heart goes out to you”
  • “With warm thoughts and wishes”